Healthy
They treat me with respect
My partner is comfortable when I spend time with friends or family
They are proud of me when I achieve something
When I say no or disagree I am respected and listened to
They encourage and support me to keep trying even when I find it hard
They don't cheat on me and trust I will not cheat on them
They don't rush our relationship
They ask my opinion when making decisions that affect both of us
They give me compliments and say positive things about me to others
They listen when we disagree and try to see my point of view
They can talk about their feelings with me
They have friends and interests of their own
Unhealthy
They make me do things I don't want to do by not listening to me
They make threats and try to scare me
They put me down when we are alone or with friends to make me feel bad
They do not want to get along with my friends or family
They hit slap or push me
They look through my phone, social media or web history
They want to know where I am all of the time
They cheat on me or accuse me of cheating on them
They steal from me or make me buy them things
They make me have sex when I don't want to
Some of the warning signs are: -
You have become a lot more critical of yourself recently, thinking that you are fat, stupid and lucky to have a partner.
You feel stressed and worried all of the time.
You have that "dreaded" feeling more often.
You are scared how your partner will react to a situation.
You avoid saying anything because you do not want to upset your partner.
You feel scared when your partner is angry because you cannot predict their behaviour.
You feel like you are walking on eggshells.
You become more isolated, stay in more without seeing friends and family to avoid an argument with your partner.